Attending a wedding soon and not sure what is appropriate or expected when it comes to a wedding gift? Not sure whether to give cash or stick the registry? What if you’re not attending the wedding? How much do you need to spend? Don’t stress, we’ve got you covered! Here’s a list of our top do’s and don’ts when it comes to wedding gift etiquette.
Don’t: Be Afraid to Give Cash
When it comes to giving cash as a wedding gift some people feel it’s a bit too impersonal, but that is absolutely not true. In fact, a lot of couples prefer cash as it let’s them spend it on something they need that they may not be able to register for or something fun and unexpected, like a cooking class on their honeymoon!
Do: Ship the Gift
So you’ve bought your gift, now what? You could bring it to the wedding (and many do!), but consider shipping the gift directly to the couple instead. Not only is it simpler for you, but it’s less stress for the couple on their big day. Now they won’t have to worry about transporting it or have the risk of losing it during the shuffle. We’ve done our fair share of carting wedding gifts to and from venues and take it from us, it’s easier to ship direct!
Do: Stick to the Registry
If you decide to go with a physical gift, stick to the registry! While the couple may end up loving your rogue gift, it’s a risky move and unless you know the couple very well or are in the wedding party, keep it simple and stick to the registry. **If you just got engaged and are looking to start your registry soon, skip to the bottom for our quick tips and recommendations!
The average wedding gift these days is around $150, but before you pull the trigger take into consideration other factors. How well do you know the couple, what is your budget, are you traveling to the wedding? All of these answers will help determine what the appropriate amount to spend will be.
Always try to your best to send your gift before the wedding day, especially if you aren’t attending the actual celebration. The old belief is that you have up to a year after the wedding day to deliver you gift, but times have changed! A year is a long time and while ‘better late than never’ is definitely true in this case, try not to wait longer than 3 months after the wedding.
Building your Registry
Are you currently engaged and trying to create your wedding registry? There’s so much to consider when starting your registry and it can be really overwhelming. The most important things to remember are to build it together with your partner, take your time, and have a large variety of items. If you’re not sure where to start, try to find an all-in-one registry that has a wide variety of items. Zola is one of our faves and we’d highly recommend it! They have pre-built Gift Collections that are a great starting point to get an idea of what you’d to register for. And if you want to register for cash, there’s an option for guests to pay for your airfare or renovations or whatever you like, so tasteful!