Wedding planning is a little bit like a roller coaster–it has ups and downs and it’s usually over before you know it! As much as you try to makes sure everything goes perfectly, there’s always something that goes haywire. It’s hard to truly expect the unexpected, but hopefully this guide will prepare you a little bit for some unexpected mishaps that might come up during wedding planning!
Unexpected: A Bridesmaid Drops Out
Sometimes a member of your bridal party may need to back out due to a disagreement, money issues or even just random life circumstances. It’s understandable that you’d be upset over this, but try to keep things in perspective and avoid letting this blow up and end your friendship. Years down the road you might realize that preserving the relationship was more important than your wedding day, so try to be understanding. Make sure your friend knows they’re still welcome to attend your wedding as a guest if possible. And don’t worry about finding a last minute replacement. Symmetrical wedding parties are way less important than you might think!
Unexpected: Falling in Love with a Pricey Dress
Yes, we all know not to try on a dress you can’t afford, but mix ups can happen. Next thing you know, you’re standing there in your absolute dream gown, but the price tag is not exactly a dream. You have a few options here. You could scour the internet and try to find the dress second hand. There are tons of sites and Facebook groups dedicated to reselling wedding items. Check out off the rack stores as well to see if you get lucky! If you’ve exhausted all of those options, but you can’t give up on that dress, taking out a low interest wedding loan can give your budget the wiggle room it needs to make your dreams come true.
Unexpected: Your Favorite Photographer is Booked Solid
You may have already picked out your favorite wedding photographer after following them on Instagram or seeing their photos from a friend’s wedding. But what happens when you reach out and they inform you they’re booked solid for your ideal dates? It’s a bummer, but try to understand that these things happen and you still have plenty of options. Ask the photographer if they can recommend others who have a similar shooting style. They have a lot of insider knowledge on their local industry and may help you find a hidden gem photographer you hadn’t considered before. If you really have your heart set on working with this particular photographer, see if they’re available for engagement photos or a post-wedding portrait shoot.
Unexpected: Your Parents Don’t Like Your Wedding Choices
It’s hard when someone doesn’t agree with your wedding planning decisions, whether it be the flowers or your venue, but it’s especially hard when your parents or in-laws aren’t totally on board. Some parents may have a more traditional wedding vision while you have more modern taste, but if they’re helping out financially you still want to take their opinions into consideration. Try to have a chat with them and see if you can come to a compromise on any issues. For example, you could offer to go with a traditional church ceremony and then transition to a more unique venue for your reception. Finally, don’t be afraid to nicely remind them that ultimately it’s your wedding and you want to make the decisions that best reflect you and your fiancé as a couple.
Unexpected: A Vendor Goes Out of Business
Yikes! This one is really tough to navigate but as we saw with Alfred Angelo in 2017, it does happen. First of all, get in touch with the vendor if possible. Ask if they have a plan for servicing the weddings they’ve booked or if they’re offering refunds. Next, grab your contract and check out the fine print to see if you have anything in writing. Depending on your scenario, you may even want to consider getting a lawyer involved to enforce the contract. At the same time, start scouting out backup plans in case there’s absolutely no way for the vendor to hold up their end of the contract. Your wedding coordinator can be a huge help in finding replacement options. It’s truly heartbreaking to let go of a vendor you once loved, whether it was a photographer, caterer or even your wedding dress, but the show must go on!